What is love to you?

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Permalink Reply by MediaMisfit on June 30, 2007 at 1:56pm

Type O's are the way the web. Too much to read so I got the last sentence.

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Permalink Reply by Marco luc on June 30, 2007 at 2:03pm

Hi Frank!

wow, you really took time to answer me i was surprised.. also I have to admit i didn't think about love this way, although everybody has his conception of it, being it living with only one person or meeting different partners..is sure a choice we make without actually realising it. So you believer in kharma? I don't really know what it is about, so i didn't understand everything about it, although it seems interesting, and yea, maybe we are all influenced somehow by our education and people around, people we trust. But you know, I personnally have parents who fight all the time, and I always thought that someday I'd still find "the on" i need. It is not like I find it bad to have many partners, it just has no sense to me, and maybe for many people around, having just one person we want to stay with forever is just something impossible to believe. I agree, i am very optimistic! I always think people we love are people who worth fighting for ;-) Also thanks a lot for your posting, it was very instructive ! If I had a father who thinks like you, maybe my life would have been less stressful and lot warmer.

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Permalink Reply by Marco luc on July 1, 2007 at 4:51am

ah sorry i misspelled that word again,..actually i was never sure how to write it. My english is not perfect please don't pay attention to eventual mistakes. Also do not get me wrong Frank. I am not putting any blame to my parents, I just expressed the wish i were closer to my father, nothing else really. Hum, also what you're explaining by kharma and dharma is relatively the same thing that we believe in christian or other religions so now i see what you meant. Actually to be honest i never really thought about the word "love" before. I always loved "instinctively" and with all my heart everytime. Without trying to classify the way i love. But it is interesting to think about it now, maybe it can help me understand better how people you go out with might live the relationship..

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Permalink Reply by Hasan Yavas on September 18, 2007 at 6:57am

Perfect...

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Permalink Reply by ILLUS on June 30, 2007 at 3:38pm

Love is cheese, pineapple and Coldstone icecream. Some would say friendship, trust, respect and loyalty...but that's all bullshit and only lasts as long as each individual participates. Once one party decides that they have grown, evolved, changed or just need a new flavor in their life...none of what once made love important, romantic or wonderful matter. Now everything the other person once did or continues to feel becomes creepy, psychotic, overbearing, or suffocating. Could be the exact stuff that was once cute, loveable, romantic and sweet...
So in my experience...love is bullshit.

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Permalink Reply by Marco luc on June 30, 2007 at 7:27pm

Illusone, i get what you say, what you mean, because i lived that too, many times. I guess we once knew girls who couldn't see the right side of us, or maybe each party was just wrong. You know, I also was in the other position, when what was love and romantic became suffocation and pain. Because as you say, i needed a change, that wasn't hers. We started with a same goal, but ended up with a different desire in life. But you know, it is also because we were both young and also, i didn't see her as someone I wanted to stay with all my life. I guess, when you start a relationship knowing already that it would end someday, it definitely ends someday. But one day, like a day that happened in my life (although you know how my life sucks for now "put a silencer on ur gun"..)well someday you will meet YOUR girl. It just doesn't happen when we wish to.
anyway thanks for your answer. ;-)

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Permalink Reply by turna on June 3, 2008 at 12:25am

woah what a great answer....

I agree

especially the repelling phase... n the whole creepy, psychotic and all that part...... I've come across like that but as soon as they say something negative like that I bail and never look back cause then it's obvious that they are over it.

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Permalink Reply by Steve Woolf on June 30, 2007 at 10:30pm

Love is when someone stands by you when you are all the way up and when you are all the way down. Up is not all it's cracked up to be, by the way. When you are way up things can suddenly get complicated, your time to be with each other can be too little, and so on.

The down is obvious -- if someone stands by you when you no longer feel you can handle things, you know you have someone special.

Love is also knowing when to allow another person enough space and room for growth. Sometimes that can mean letting go, too. Love is weird and complicated that way.

Ultimately I think love is when you want someone else to be happy even if it benefits you in no way. Love of friends, love of family, love of partnership, love of companions -- it comes in so many flavors.

My $.02, anyway...

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Permalink Reply by Marco luc on July 1, 2007 at 5:00am

Steve, when you say "Love is also knowing when to allow another person enough space and room for growth" I totally agree. I wish my current girlfriend could see things this way, but then again, she should understand this by herself, or it won't make any sense. Love is a precious feeling (like frank says, maybe a very dangerous state of mind in some cases but) a feeling we should preservate and cherish too. Love can make a bad man become good, or a sad man become happy. But once again, i know, it could lead to the exact contrary. Love is complicated, but such a beautiful thing when shared with people you treasure.
Frank I have a question : you seem to be some kind of philosophe or something like that? Or maybe you just are more sensitive to human being perception of life. I am glad everyone can share their vision of life in general through those discussions.

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Permalink Reply by Bill Cammack on July 1, 2007 at 4:34pm

Scientifically, "love" is chemical addiction.

It's your body's response to stimulus.

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DatingGenius

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Permalink Reply by Marco luc on July 1, 2007 at 5:52pm

oh hi Bill. Yea scientifically i heard about that too, it was so impressive! lol Thinking that love could be resume to a body's response to stimulus makes the whole idea less romantic right? ;-) But explanation about chemistry and molecules was totally surprising and "logical". Now i think it is a bit more than just a "chemical reaction"..let's hope! ;-)

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Permalink Reply by J.W. on July 2, 2007 at 11:13am

From frank: "Karma basically means that all your bad thing get written down on a list and in your next live"

You should've used the word "life" instead of "live", and "thing" ought to have been "things". Normally I wouldn't care, but since you've twice corrected someone else in this thread...well, call it karma. Lol.

And, to all the critics who say love is over-hyped, psychosomatic, over-emphasized, purely biological, or in any other way not as cracked up as it's made out to be: I truly and sincerely hope that someday you know better. You deserve it.

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