Life is out to get me

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Permalink Reply by Rick Rey on August 20, 2007 at 1:23am

Andy, my man, I feel you. Life can hit you with some hard blows. But in a way that's the beauty of it. Did you ever hear that line, "the sweet isn't as sweet without the sour." Yeah it's kinda corny but it's true. Life is about the whole enchilada. Besides, maybe you can smooth things over with her when she's had a couple of days to chill out. What do you think?

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Permalink Reply by andy garcia on August 20, 2007 at 11:49am

ha id never heard of that but i can understand the truth of it cause you can always do something good and enjoy it or you can do your best to do something good in a horrible situation and once you complete that it so much more rewarding at the end so thanks for that

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Permalink Reply by TiasTreasures on August 20, 2007 at 10:44am

Oh Andy - I'm givin' you a hug right now!

Listen - it sounds to me like you're really the 'effect' of your life right now. By that I mean - you're standing there, getting hit left and right with a lot of issues and problems - all at once.

It's a good start that you see your part in all this. Responsibility and honest awknowledgement of our own hand in our lives is a step in the right direction. IMO.

It's hard to deal with problems in multiples! Take each situation - one at a time - and face it. Take it head on and figure out the things that you 'can' do to make it right. Make yourself a nice list of things you need to do for each one.

There are always things that we will be able to amend, fix and work out - but - be open to letting the things that you can't - be ok too.

I'm sorry that kharma is biting your booty - but if you really feel that way - you need to start putting some positive kharma out there.

Go fix it!

Now!

Today. A thousand mile walk - always starts with the first step.

Tia

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Permalink Reply by andy garcia on August 20, 2007 at 11:48am

i get everything you say but its just, i am the one tossing out tons of possitive karma and the reason i missed out on one peice of joy and was handed a hand grenade was helping out someone un expectidly so its just like.. ok well i dont like being greedy tho but everytime i put myself second it seems i let something important to me slip away and its just really stressfull to my own persona cause i wana always help who i can but who helps me

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Permalink Reply by TiasTreasures on August 20, 2007 at 12:08pm

I know how you feel - life is definitely not fair sometimes.

I learned a while ago to let go of expectations - seriously - let go of any and all expectations. Don't do things because you expect life to give them back - you'll always always be dissappointed.

Don't wallow anymore Andy! Just tell yourself not to. It's hard hard hard - but worth it in the end.

Trust me - go make that list. Write down each situation and try to think of things you did that let all the shit come flying in. Hindsight will help if you let it. Then just decide that today - things will be different.

Obviously, without me knowing your exact situation - my advice might be totally off - but I do this for most situations in my life and I swear it helps me.

Don't wallow. Don't do things with expectations. Never put yourself second. Decide to change it.

You'll be ok and all this shit will look so different in 2 weeks. Work with what you have, fix what you can and resign yourself to the fact that you can't control what others do or feel or say.

(((hugs))))

and a kick in the pants...

:P

Tia

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Permalink Reply by andy garcia on August 20, 2007 at 12:14pm

ha i dont do things with expectations.... alot but yeah i stoped trying after awhile now i just do things to do things something comes from it great if not oh well i just wanted to hang out anyways but yeah ill go ahead and do that list and see how that gose and thanks for the kick in the pants, ya broke my fav watch i had in there haha jk thanks again

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Permalink Reply by TiasTreasures on August 20, 2007 at 12:18pm

LOL

You're too funny! At least you've got a sense of humor!

:P

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Permalink Reply by MediaMisfit on August 20, 2007 at 6:53pm

The people who fail are the people who sit with the weight on their shoulders and don't attempt to move. Maybe start with small steps but whatever you do don't fucking give up. Time gives a helping push to those standing and ready to received it but only drags along those who have collapsed under the pressures of life until one day many years from now they sit up and wonder why their lives never went anywhere.

"Ambient" by the Barcode Brothers is a good song for this.

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Permalink Reply by Napp on August 20, 2007 at 7:38pm

You have enough good karma that no one was hurt. Good enough, right?

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Permalink Reply by andy garcia on August 21, 2007 at 12:06am

right nap right

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Permalink Reply by Christian on August 20, 2007 at 8:54pm

it's really easy to wonder, to be eaten alive, with the thought of "WHAT AM I GOING TO DO WITH MY LIFE!!? WHY IS EVERYONE, EVERYTHING SHITTING ON ME !??? WHY, WHY WHY"

you just have to be able to look at your situation and laugh at the stupidity of the shit that happens in it.. . it's so freeing to be able to laugh at yourself .. . seriously .. . i do it alot .. . hA .. .

and when it comes to "the girl" .. . don't even sweat that either .. . it may sound cliche but, if you two are meant to be, you will be .. . took me seven years to get back with an ex of mine .. . and, it was worth it.. . we've both grown up, know what we want and don't .. . so .. . if things just aren't looking bright RIGHT now .. . there's always tomorrow .. .

AND .. .

everyone usually always knows the answer to there problem .. . they just don't like to listen to themselves .. . so when you say "torturing my mother" .. . you most likely know what to do about that situation .. .

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Permalink Reply by Reginald Russaw on August 20, 2007 at 10:40pm

Andy I do not know you but I can't help but share my thoughts with you seeing as how I was feeling to same way about my life. I don't give advice very often because it doesn't always make sense in the context of someone else's life (not that I know all of the details of your life(and I therefore won't make any assumptions about you)). My experiences as of late have helped me to realize a few things with regard to negative events.
1. While we are not omnipotent, we do have a great deal of control over our lives. The issue is our inability to see the future, the outcome of the decisions we are going to make. One must be ready to shoulder the weight of the consequences of our actions decision.
2. You can try to control people but that's manipulation and that's just mean! I've had relationships where everything went wrong and you know what I learned from those? I've learned that you have to give yourself to people in small careful manageable doses. I believe that as you get older, the more you become yourself. Let a person learn these things steadily and everything will usually be alright even if it doesn't go so well.
3. If life keeps sending you right and left hooks, learn to duck and strike back man. No one likes being beaten, and it's worse if you don't fight it back. You do have intrinsic strength
Try doing something different with yourself. New things break patterns.

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